Posted by: Tara Aarness | August 8, 2010

Paying It Forward ~ A Repost From Theycallmejane’s Blog

Checking the Freshly Pressed page this morning, I came across a post that is simply too good not to repost. Like her, if you take it upon yourself to conduct a random act of kindness, please share your act with me in comments, then jump over to her blog and share there, as well. What better way of spreading the goodwill than by inspiring others with your work?

Pay It Forward, Random Act of Kindness – Whatever You Call It, Let’s Do IT! (http://theycallmejane.wordpress.com/2010/08/06/pay-it-forward-random-act-of-kindness-%e2%80%93-whatever-you-call-it-let%e2%80%99s-do-it/#comment-5469)

(We’re taking a last minute hurrah before our summer ends. Yes, our children go back to school on August 10th! I will be without a computer for 5 whole days. For the next few posts, I’ll share with you some of my favorites. The post below is a great reminder and was originally posted on December 18. I will miss you all! See you when I get back!)

By now I’m sure you’ve heard of the Philly couple that bought a stranger’s meal at a diner and for 5 hours customers continued to pay it forward. It reminded me that I hadn’t bought someone’s coffee in a while now.

About once every two months or so (I wish it were more often but quite honestly I don’t always think of it) I pay for the order of the person behind me in the drive-through or pay the toll for the car behind me when we go to “the big city” (as my daughter likes to call it.) Suddenly, this morning I remembered that it had been awhile so when I got my coffee this morning I paid for the car behind me, as well. Her bill was only $3.18. Hmmmm, I gave the cashier a $20. I looked in my rear view mirror and there were no more cars to pay for. So, $3.18 for my good deed of the day felt a little lack luster. I suppose I was expecting a little more grand gesture – not that I’m made of money, mind you, but I’m a few months behind in my good deeds. I was atoning for my neglect.

When I make these gestures I rarely look back to see the reaction. I hope to make a quick get-away, quite frankly. But this time? No such luck. I was stopped by two traffic lights in a row and she caught up with me by the second light. She rolled down her window. She searched my face for some recognition. She found none. “Thank you for this,” she said, “You don’t know what this means to me. I’m on my way to an interview. I lost my job a month ago and I HAVE to find work. I’d given these up,” and she raised her cup, “but I decided to splurge today for a little boost of confidence. Your kindness has done so much more.”

I could see that her eyes were brimming and she was fighting back tears. I was stunned into silence. I never said a word to her, just listened. The light turned green and she smiled and drove away. $3.18. Here I was feeling guilty I had only payed it forward with 3 dollars and 18 cents. But that $3.18 provided a much-needed boost for a woman in a desperate situation – looking for work just before Christmas. It meant more to her than I ever imagined it would.

So this weekend I want you to do me a favor. Pay it forward with someone else. Whatever you can afford. If it’s a meal, a cup of coffee, a bus token…for a stranger. Someone you never expect to see again. Then come back here to this post and comment about what you’ve done. Or post about it on your blog- but be sure to come back here to link to it so we can all read about what you’ve done.

Random acts of kindness spread joy like wildfire. I think they have more power than negativity. Together we can make the world a little happier this weekend with our small gestures. (Borrowing from Bender in The Breakfast Club) If he does it, then we’ll all do it and it’ll be anarchy! Let’s start our own little version of anarchy! Are you with me?

 

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Responses

  1. I’m honored that you felt this post worthy to share with YOUR readers! Thank you – and it’s so nice to meet you!

    • The thanks really goes to you, as you’ve inspired not just me, but quite possibly a planet. And it’s very nice to meet you, as well. :)

  2. I haven’t paid it forward in a while. Today I will buy someone a coffee!

  3. Liz, that’s excellent! You’ve paid it forward almost every day, as you’ve helped so many people with the compassion you’ve shown them. The world needs more people like you and Jane (Theycallmejane.wordpress.com)!


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