Posted by: Tara Aarness | October 30, 2009

Does Size Really Matter?

Ok, so maybe it does in certain circumstances, but I’m referring to something a little above the belt. My stomach.

As I sit here writing this, sauce from my slice of pizza remains in a corner of my mouth. Licking it away, I revel in the spiciness and reach for another piece, not because I’m hungry, but because it tastes so damn good and I want it.

My body is height/weight proportionate, but I still worry. I do have belly fat, my thighs jiggle, there are dimples (i.e. cellulite)…everywhere. But frankly I no longer care. The BBC showed a documentary on being thin. Two journalists went from a UK size 10/12 to a size 00, in just five weeks. One dieted and exercised like a mad woman, the other just dieted.

While both came very close to their goals, they each learned something. The journalist who dieted and exercised was pleased to come very close to her goal, however she “loves life” too much to give up food and “real life.” The other journalist spiraled into madness – mood swings, terribly unhappy, and she became obsessed with the goal, well beyond the project. Her final statement on the subject was, “Dieting is madness.”

Why, then, do we women put ourselves through this torture? For the sake of vanity? Are we really that shallow to believe that we will be ‘better’ than…who? Who are we competing with? Each other? Or is it to ‘attract a man?’ And drive yourself insane while in a relationship with him? Is he really worth starving yourself for? And if he is, what happens when things get serious? Are we ‘devalued’ because we are a size 12 rather than a size 4? Why can’t we women, sisters in arms who stand together to break through the glass ceiling, just appreciate the assets we all have instead of ridiculing one another over our flaws?

Beauty truly is skin deep and time will always have its way with us, unless your filthy rich and can afford several trips to the doctors for ‘maintenance.’ I, for one, am going to proudly strut my stuff in a bikini, or shorts and tank, or even wear that tight shirt that shows off a little too much flab, secure in the knowledge that yes, I am good enough. My friends and family love me just as I am. And do you know what? Your friends and family love you – JUST AS YOU ARE. Why not share the love, then, with your fellow sisters?



  1. Even though I currently run a ‘diet’ blog, it’s not about getting skinny, it’s about getting healthy. People forget that personal overall health is a large part psychological. I really, really appreciate your point of view here. It’s not about getting skinny, it’s about getting happy with yourself!!! Thumbs up. 🙂

    • Hi Mshl,

      Thanks for the kudos and for sharing your thoughts, as well. Seems as if too many women forget that it is about getting, or maintaining, health, and letting go of issues with numbers, which can be misleading.

      Thanks again for your feedback and keep up the great work you are doing!

      Tara 🙂

  2. I watched that documentary (and others like it) and it just proved to me what I think I knew all along. Some of us just aren’t made to be that thin. If I lost every gram of fat on my body, my bones still wouldn’t fit into a size zero. I have hips. I am a woman not shop mannequin.

    Thankfully years of watching my mother go from one crazy diet to the next, and never being happy, hasn’t had an effect on me. I eat what I want without going over the top. I don’t deny myself what my body is craving. If I have PMT and crave chocolate, I’m going to damn well have some!!

    My body changed a lot when I had kids. It’s changing more now I’m heading towards my mid-thirties. But I love myself as I am. And anyone who means anything to me in my life loves me as I am too.

    • Hi Mutteringsfromthemoor,

      Wow! Ok, it’s official -I’m a fan of yours now. Thank you for sharing your insight on this topic, but also your blog, as well.

      Tara 🙂

  3. well I don’t think people need to torture themselves to be thin but they shouldn’t do the opposite and do nothing about their body.
    That’s the problem with most, they either go on a torture diet or give up and eat all they want.

    Try something continuum.

    I mean, keep a weekly basis of exercise, go jogging 3 or 4 times a week for example. You’ll be doing great for your cardiovascular system and maintaining your shape even with an extra slice of pizza when it tastes that good 😉

    • Hi thelocalguide,

      You’ve got it right; moderation is key and I couldn’t agree more!

      Exercise is important to our daily health – beside the above mentioned benefits, doing bone jarring exercises such as walking or running, help stave off osteoporosis, a growing concern for many women.

      Together as team, we can each do our part to encourage eachother, rather than tear eachother down.

      Thanks for your input! 🙂

  4. Beautifully written and well said!

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